Body shaming is a big no-no, even if it’s supposedly said as a joke. It lowers people’s self confidence, makes them think negatively about themselves and is always hurtful, even if it is said jokingly. It hurts even more when it comes from a loved one.
Last week, Chinese actress Sun Yi (孙铱) called her husband out for body shaming her after she got pregnant. Many netizens applauded her bravery for speaking up about the issue. As it turns out, her vulnerability paid off as her husband understood her point and apologised.
The 28-year-old admitted on Weibo that she had been hesitant to post the video about her issue. However, she felt it was a major issue for pregnant mothers and wanted their voices to be heard. “I hope this video will help other pregnant moms say their (piece),” she said.
Her husband, nicknamed “Bear Bear (熊熊)”, often joked about her body after she got pregnant. He would tell Sun Yi that she had “reached the pinnacle of life” because her breasts were larger. Although he made it out to be a joke and reassured the actress he was proud of her, Bear Bear would also complain about her “drooping chest”. Additionally, he would mock her body shape and say she was resembling “a little fat ball”.
Sun Yi was holding back tears as she recalled the insults. After all, this was coming from the man she loves. “Do you want me to blame myself?” Sun Yi asked in the video. “Or (should I) blame the kid in my stomach?” The actress was well aware of the changes in her body and was worried as it could affect her career. “Every time I hear these words from my husband, I would feel uncomfortable,” the actress shared.
A few days after Sun Yi posted the video, there was an update about her situation. To netizens’ delight, Bear Bear had apologised. The actress’ husband had handwritten an apology for her which she happily displayed as a public apology.
He had clearly put a lot of thought into the matter before he penned his apology. Fans who examined the letter pointed out he hadn’t denied or excused the fact he had hurt his wife. Bear Bear had accepted that his wife was hurt by his words and was working to better himself for her. He also promised to not joke about her figure again in the apology.
The couple is doing much better now as they have made up. Being pregnant isn’t easy but we are glad Sun Yi resolved the matter without lashing out at her husband. And kudos to Bear Bear for taking the time and effort to understand Sun Yi’s viewpoint!
Communication helps a lot in any relationship and it’s wonderful that these two know it. Hopefully the duo will continue to be open about matters with one another. That’s how you build a strong and healthy relationship.