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Tired Of Saying ‘Yes’? How To Stop People-Pleasing & Reclaim Your Time

Stop Pleasing Others & Start Pleasing Yourself!

by Dean Zaini
January 6, 2025
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Ever said “yes” to something and immediately regretted it? Yeah, we’ve all been there.

The art of pleasing others – or, more accurately, the compulsion to do so – is something many of us have mastered, sometimes to our detriment. But when does being kind cross the line into people-pleasing territory? And more importantly, how do we break free from it?

What Is A People-Pleaser?

A people pleaser is someone who feels they have to make others happy, even if it means ignoring their own needs. They might be the friend who never says no, the colleague who always takes on extra tasks, or the partner who changes plans to avoid conflict. While helping others is great, always doing it can harm your sense of self and happiness.

The term “people pleaser” isn’t a medical condition or a personality type; it’s more of a description. It’s about constantly trying to keep others happy, often at your own expense. This could mean taking on tasks you don’t have time for, saying sorry too much, or hiding how you really feel just to avoid arguments.

Signs You Might Be A People Pleaser

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  • You find it hard to say “no” and often overcommit. You might feel pressured to say yes because you don’t want to disappoint others, even if it means sacrificing your time or energy. For example, you might agree to help a colleague after hours, even when you’re exhausted.
  • You agree with others just to avoid disagreement, even when you don’t truly align with their views. Conflict might feel scary or uncomfortable, so you go along with things you don’t believe in. For instance, you might nod along in conversations just to keep the peace, even when you have a different opinion.
  • You feel anxious at the thought of creating conflict or letting someone down. The fear of disappointing others can make you overly cautious in your interactions. For example, you might feel uneasy for hours after declining an invitation, worrying if you upset someone.
  • Your personality shifts depending on who you’re around. You might adapt to fit in or please others, leaving you unsure of your true self. This could mean acting overly cheerful with one group and reserved with another, depending on what you think they expect from you.
  • You apologise for things that aren’t your fault. This habit often stems from wanting to keep the peace or avoid criticism. You might find yourself saying “I’m sorry” even when someone else bumps into you.
  • You often neglect your own needs to prioritise others. Whether it’s skipping meals, losing sleep, or giving up your free time, your own well-being takes a backseat. For instance, you might cancel personal plans to help a friend move, even when you need a break.
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These tendencies may leave you feeling drained, resentful, or even questioning your sense of self. After all, if you’re always focused on meeting others’ expectations, when do you get to be ‘you?’

The Emotional Toll Of People-Pleasing

Constantly putting others first may seem noble, but it comes with a hefty price.

People pleasers often experience:

  • Stress and Exhaustion: Always being available can lead to burnout.
  • Loss of Identity: Over time, you may lose sight of what makes you happy.
  • Built-Up Resentment: Sacrificing your needs can breed frustration and bitterness.
  • Relationship Strain: One-sided dynamics can harm even the closest bonds.

Why Do We Become People Pleasers?

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The roots of people-pleasing can be complex. Some common influences include:

Cultural and social conditioning often play a big role. Many of us grow up believing that being kind means always putting others first. This idea can make us feel guilty about prioritising our own needs. It’s like we’ve been programmed to think that our worth is tied to how much we do for others.

Fear of abandonment can also drive this behavior. The thought of losing friends, family, or relationships might make us bend over backwards to keep everyone happy. It’s not unusual to feel that saying “no” could risk important connections.

For some, past trauma plays a part. Maybe you’ve faced rejection or harsh criticism in the past. Those experiences can leave a lasting mark, making you seek approval as a way to feel accepted or valued.

While these factors may explain people-pleasing tendencies, it’s important to remember that change is possible.

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Tips To Stop People-Pleasing

If you’ve identified with people-pleasing, here’s the good news: you can learn to set boundaries and prioritise yourself without feeling guilty. Here’s how:

  • Recognise Your Patterns: Keep track of how often you say “yes” and the emotions that follow. Are you genuinely happy to help, or do you feel obligated?
  • Start Small: Begin asserting yourself in low-stakes situations. For example, if a friend suggests a plan you’re not keen on, politely decline.
  • Learn to Stall: When someone asks for a favour, take a moment before answering. Try saying, “Let me think about it and get back to you.” This gives you time to assess whether the request aligns with your priorities.
  • Set Boundaries: Define limits on your time and energy. For instance, block out periods in your day that are off-limits to new commitments.
  • Practice Saying “No” Tactfully: Rehearse empathetic ways to decline requests, such as, “I’d love to help, but I’m fully booked right now.”
  • Focus on Reciprocity: Healthy relationships involve give and take. If you’re always giving, consider whether the relationship is balanced.
  • Seek Professional Help: If people-pleasing is deeply ingrained, a therapist can help uncover its roots and develop strategies to overcome it.

Building A Life That Feels Like Yours

Breaking the people-pleasing habit is tough, but it’s so worth it. When you start standing up for yourself, you’ll reclaim your time, your energy, and your true sense of self. People appreciate realness – show up as your authentic self, and your relationships will be more genuine and fulfilling.

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And here’s the most important thing to remember: Saying “no” isn’t selfish. It’s human. So next time you feel the pressure to please, take a moment to check in with yourself and remember: Your happiness counts too.

Go ahead – say “no” to something and enjoy that sweet, sweet freedom.

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