Relationships can be messy, but romantic relationships always get sticky when it involves a trio. Unless its a polyamorous relationship which has been agreed on by all parties, this sort of relationship usually ends in tears.
Recently, music producer Chen Lingtao (陈令韬) was discovered to have broken up with his girlfriend of 4 years. Shockingly enough, his girlfriend claimed Chinese actress Meng Meiqi (孟美岐) was the reason why.
The two supposedly met through work. Both were on the show “Produce Camp 101 (创造营 101)”, Meng as a participant and Chen as a music director. It was also discovered that he has been helping Meng produce her latest music album. Although some suspected the duo were together, Meng refuted the rumours via her company. She made the denial on 19th October. However, Chen’s girlfriend came forth on 25th October to expose the two.
His girlfriend, known on Weibo as “They call me big flower sister (他们叫我大花妞)”, wrote a long article full of hurt and pain about his betrayal. The icing on the cake was that everything had happened a few days before their 4th anniversary. Flower explained she had discovered his infidelity in July last year. She’d caught sight of his chat records and noticed him talking to Meng. She also discovered he was going to a hotel to visit the artist. Flower confronted him and they decided to take a break from their relationship.
Although Flower wanted to give him a second chance, she quickly changed her mind after his birthday. Apparently, Chen had been steadily making it up to her with sweet words. “I thought he would (find) me on his birthday but he gave me a blow. He took (Meng) to (celebrate) his birthday and later accompanied her to Tibet to celebrate her birthday,” she wrote. That had been the last straw.
Chen later called and told Flower he’d broken up with Meng, but it was too late. She was over him. Chen did explain that Meng hadn’t known he was already taken which is why they broke up. Regardless of the reason, Flower was still hurt by his actions. As a result of guilt, Chen gave her 400,000 yuan (about RM260,000) to compensate.
The music producer confirmed the incident on Weibo when he shared a photo of a note he’d written on his phone. “I didn’t escape,” he stated. “I have accepted (my) wrongs.” He mentioned no names, but emphasised: “This is a matter (between) two people. I hope I don’t hurt (those who are) innocent again because of this.” The producer apologised to his family about the matter and strangely enough, wrote something like an informal will. While some netizens jeered at him, others were concerned he was mentally affected by the entire situation.
The former member of “Rocket Girls 101 (火箭少女101)” has not personally responded to the issue. However, her company has denied the rumours. “Our artist Meng Meiqi has no knowledge of Chen Lingtao’s personal life and has never actively (been involved) in the feelings of others,” they said. They also emphasised that the screenshots of their messages were one-sided and that the artist is currently single.
Chen may have wanted both women in his life, but now he (presumably) has neither. In a way, it’s sad since Flower’s account sounds like she gave up a lot for him. Although it may be painful, the silver lining is that she got out of the relationship before fully committing to it.
Loving someone is never easy, but you also need to know when it may destroy you. Hopefully she finds someone new who will cherish her devotion and deliberately choose her and her alone.