You said “yes” to his proposal. Congrats! Which means you’re just one step away from saying “I do” at the altar!
Sure, you’re excited – weddings are beautiful events! Two people becoming one, at an event witnessed by many, is a lovely sight to behold. But way before you even say “I do”, we know about all the stress and anguished moments a bride (or groom) might face. Agonising over a wedding is normal because you really want to get it done right. However, obsessing unnecessarily might just lead you to become… a bridezilla!
Although there is no such thing as a “perfect bride” (or groom), whether you want to or not, you set the tone for everyone else’s experience at your wedding as the societally-designated figurehead. So take a deep breath and have a look at our suggestions for minimizing conflict, preventing meltdowns, and ensuring that everyone at your wedding, including you, has a good day. Also, just so you know, bridezilla doesn’t just happen to the pretty brides out there. It could happen to the good looking grooms too.
Take Deep Breaths
A lot can happen at a wedding, even when you’re so ready for it. Even if your vendor isn’t as accommodating as you’d want or the venue has rigid rules or your guests are running late, just take a moment and deep breaths. Even if it is irritating, some circumstances are beyond your control. As a result, you’ll need to stand back and consider fresh possibilities.
Don’t Be Afraid To Delegate
This can be challenging if you’re an extremely organised control freak who takes pride in your capacity to make things happen. But on occasion, assistance is beneficial. We know you want a a flawless wedding. But that doesn’t mean it’s a one man show. Weddings are all about your circle of loved people coming together and helping you make your special day a success. You can only accomplish so much on your own, so don’t be reluctant to ask your partner, friends, or family for assistance. If you plan to gather everyone together to do some wedding DIY, it could be a great ladies’ night in for you and your bridesmaids. You will benefit from it, and your friends will have fun participating.
Have A Sense Of Humour
We know weddings are stressful and serious business, but it won’t hurt to have some humour now and then. When something bad happens, try to think of it as a humorous future narrative; it will seem funny when you look back one day. Additionally, if you feel as though everyone you’ve ever met is suddenly offering unsolicited wedding advice, practice your best nod and smile. You can also be a little cheeky and prepare some funny responses in case someone complains about the menu options, the travel time, or anything else they feel like picking on.
Don’t Compare Your Wedding To Others’
Everyone has their on fairytale story. So, comparing your wedding with someone else’s is totally a bad idea. Every wedding is as unique as the couple being married, and when you compare your wedding to another couple’s, you start to doubt your decisions. Stress follows from there. Therefore, rather than comparing how your wedding will turn out to others’, it is important to just be yourself and enjoy the moment.
Ignore The Strict Budget
Hard to believe, but know that it’s OK. Budgeting is fine, but when you set a strict budget, things can get tense when you go beyond the budget planned. The best course of action is to conduct research. Investigate what the typical price of items should be, then gradually determine what you can afford. Check in sometimes to make sure things aren’t getting out of control.
Don’t Change Your Mind Often
It’s tempting to constantly come up with new ideas, especially when you find something attractive on Instagram or Pinterest. Even though it can be challenging to ask, try not to change your mind too frequently while you prepare your wedding. Try to trust your own judgement and preferences; doubting yourself will just increase your stress levels and have the bridezilla effect. Do not, unless absolutely necessary, request revisions to items that are already finished or almost so. If you do request adjustments, be explicit, concise, and most importantly, reasonable.
Focus On The Marriage, Not Just The Wedding
The wedding is just a formal ceremony you’re undergoing in front of tons of people. But what’s more important is the marriage. You should keep in mind that the wedding day’s goal is to construct a marriage, not a wedding. At the conclusion of everything, you will be seated before celebrants, holding hands with the person you have decided to spend the rest of your life with. The excitement of that may be more important to concentrate on than the minutiae of the wedding day itself.
Remind Yourself That It’s Your Day
What’s the whole point of a wedding if you yourself aren’t enjoying it?
Everyone will only remember whether or not your wedding was enjoyable in the end. Nobody will remember your hairstyle, the centrepieces, or the fact that you didn’t send your “save the date” when some ridiculous wedding magazine said you should have. Make it enjoyable, because if you do everything related to your wedding perfectly, you’ll only need to get married once. Additionally, avoid getting overly inebriated at all costs. While trying to unwind, keep in mind how much fun you and everyone else had.
