It’s easy to get carried away when you’re in love, especially with all the thrills and hopes it brings out in you.
You love spending time with them. You laugh at all their jokes. You share lots of things in common. But, deep inside, you tend to feel like everything is moving too fast and you just need to breathe.
Don’t worry. We totally get how that feels! It’s absolutely normal to get swept up in the flurry of romance, especially when you’ve just started dating, or have never been in a long-term relationship. So it would be ideal if you took a minute to reflect on every aspect of your current relationship. Because, believe it or not, you can be emotionally drained and unable to make rational decisions about your relationship at this phase.
If you need a moment to think about this relationship you’re in, or about to jump into, we’ve got some pro tips that might just help you hit the breaks.
Keep Your Feelings To Yourself
Early on in the relationship, you might feel that you are in love. However, wait until you are certain before telling your partner that you are. When you express your emotions too early on in a relationship, it might lead to an intimacy and commitment neither of you is really ready for. Additionally, it could cause you to concentrate on your partner’s idealized self rather than their true self. Wait till you know the other person well enough to know for sure that you are in love and really ready to get into the relationship. Till then, just zip it on the “I love yous”.
Avoid Talk About The Future
Skip talking about plans for the future, and what it means for you and your partner if you really want to hit the breaks. Talking about it isn’t really required, especially if your relationship is still young. Additionally, it will only increase expectations and pressure in the relationship, which could end if your viewpoints don’t coincide right away. Take it really slowly and simply enjoy yourself. Everything need not be grave.
Distract Yourself
Distracting yourself as much as you can will help you avoid thinking about your new partner too much. The best approach to stop worrying about THEM is to use one of these techniques: immersing yourself in work or spending time with your friends. Filling up your calendar will make sure you don’t talk to them as frequently. Additionally, your relationship shouldn’t be the exclusive focus of your life. There are other significant things that give your life more purpose.
Don’t Text Too Often
We get it that your itchy hands are just dying to text them, but DON’T!
We’re taking it slow, remember? So there’s no need to continue the conversation from yesterday or start a new one with them. Doing so will simply give the impression that you are attached to them, and our goal is to build this bond gradually. Texting when needed only is crucial. You definitely don’t need to know what they had for lunch, what their dog is doing, or how their day went. So please, just put your phone down!
Mind Your Boundaries
“Canoodling” is a normal part of a quick-paced relationship. And, we know most of y’all are doing just that. However, it’s advisable to take things more slowly and set limits so that the relationship may hit the breaks, particularly when it comes to sex. Well, of course, the exception is if you’re in your slut era, in which case, it’s a completely different matter.
But seriously. Navigating the relationship will be a lot simpler if you know your boundaries. Even if they are the right person, sometimes it’s okay to blue ball them to let them know your boundaries. The good ones would respect and understand that.
Be Honest
Any and every relationship requires this of you.
As corny as it may sound, the best course of action is always to be honest. Instead of getting swept up in the romantic whirlwind, it is preferable to be open and honest about what you want in a relationship. It’s all butterflies and fireworks in the stomach up until they ask, “Are we officially dating now?”, at which point, you start to get cold sweats.
Knowing where the relationship is going is preferable to pushing them along. If you’re actually ready for the relationship, then you can go ahead and answer a straight YES! But if not, just tell them how you exactly feel. You can say something like: “I enjoy being with you, but I think it’s still too early to jump right in”.
What’s the point of jumping into a relationship when you’re indecisive or having mixed feelings about it?
