Navigating relationships isn’t as easy as many make it out to be, especially when you have the expectation that it needs to be perfect. There is no such thing as a flawless relationship and if there is, please give us the handbook. Since the handbook doesn’t exist, steering your relationship based on archaic beliefs and striving to meet impossible standards won’t result in the outcomes you’re hoping for. Your bond with your partner will only get strained and compromised as a result.
You may have heard of some of the out-of-date concepts we’re describing, such as “real love” or “being mysterious.” We’re saying you need to free yourself of these dated ideas before you start your dating game. So here are 5 dating myths you should definitely learn to unlearn.
#1: You’ll know when it’s the right person
You don’t and that’s a fact. You certainly won’t know if that person is your right person and that’s totally okay. The thing that people constantly forget about relationships is that they require work. Happiness doesn’t simply fall into your lap. You and your partner need to make it work so that both of you can see where the relationship is going. Simply letting nature take its course is lazy and shows that you both don’t want to put in the work.
#2: No need to say “I love you” constantly, they should just know
As the age-old saying goes: actions speak louder than words. However, sometimes, words do matter. The phrase “I love you” is the most precious form of love that you give to someone that you truly adore. It’s the foundation of your relationship and if it lacks strength because you or your partner think that it doesn’t matter, it’ll easily fall apart.
#3: They should agree with us all the time
Look, there’s no denying that your partner should be your number #1 supportive fan. However, disagreements do happen and that should not be a deal breaker. Disagreeing with you does NOT mean that they don’t love you or are completely invalidating you. Your perception of life doesn’t have to be the same as your partner’s – and while it would be a bonus if were, not seeing eye to eye on things can help you grow and evolve as an individual.
#4: Don’t reply too fast
Whoever said that replying too fast equals being desperate is just downright wrong. Your phone is just right there and someone is messaging you… why do you need to wait an hour just to reply? Unless you’re busy with work or chores, reply to that message. There’s no such thing as desperation when texting somebody, especially when the person you’re texting cares about you and wants to date you.
#5: Being mysterious is sexy
Although it seems to cool to play hard to get or be “mysterious” because you don’t want to be perceived as easy, it just doesn’t work. You know what truly works? Being yourself. A person will gravitate towards you when you show emotional intelligence. Plus, you’ll know when someone sticks by you when you show your most authentic self. Not by putting up a façade because you want to appear “cool”.
There’s no right or wrong way to date, but by relying on these myths, you’re essentially starting on the wrong foot in the dating realm. The most important thing to note is that you should just be you.