Sexual orientation is still a point of contention in Malaysia. While some have mostly adjusted to the idea of gay men, many still find it difficult to wrap their minds around lesbian women. Especially lesbian Malay women.
Recently, Family and Marriage Counselor Consultant Specialist Hushim Salleh shared how this married man discovered his wife was a lesbian. Needless to say, it was a nasty shock.
According to Kosmo, Hushim Salleh had been discussing how Malay lesbians often hid themselves in society. Apparently, they would maintain a good character, ensure they were properly covered up and stayed aware of religious matters. In other words, they resembled devout Malay women. To ensure they maintained their cover, some would even go as far as to get married.
This was the situation a 28-year-old religious teacher found himself in. Apparently, the teacher had approached Hushim Salleh for counselling. The teacher claimed he had not touched his wife since they got married six months ago.
“The man cried and complained that his wife did not allow him to touch her at all, let alone have sex, as she would refuse him citing gynaecological problems,” Hushim shared. Additionally, the married couple did not live together. The wife was apparently staying with her parents in Shah Alam as it was closer to her work place.
However, the teacher soon found it curious that his wife was spending nights at her friend’s apartment every Saturday. He initially saw no problems with it as the friend was female. But he eventually found proof in, of all places, his wife’s bra. The teacher dug up a flash drive with photos and videos of his wife having sex with another women.
“The man’s wife finally admitted to having a homosexual relationship with another married female religious teacher,” Hushim stated. “(The wife) also said they had been together since their teens when they were both studying at a religious school.” To say that her family was shocked and upset was an understatement. Her father had apparently passed out in anger upon seeing the video while her husband finally decided to divorce her.
It’s not exactly the most ideal way to come out to her family. However, we doubt she would have ever admitted the relationship and we can’t really blame her. Hopefully she’s managed to sort things out with her family, or is at least living happier as herself.