Divorce is an ugly situation where no one ultimately comes out winning. Lee Jing Lei (李靚蕾) has just unleashed a can of worms after she and Cantopop crooner Wang Leehom (王力宏) filed for divorce this week.
Last night (Friday, 17th December), Lee Jing Lei posted a lengthy 9-page (4538 words) exposé that details their broken marriage, and a long list of alleged indiscretions that have left fans (including us) speechless.
Why the exposé now?
When their divorce was made public, Leehom told Jing Lei that she could trust him and his team to make the statement and control the narrative. As it turns out, the singer was only looking out for himself.
When Jing Lei was attacked because people thought her friction with her mother-in-law had contributed to the divorce, Leehom told her that it wasn’t convenient for him to deny the rumour after announcing that he won’t be making any more statements. But when news of him cheating on BY2’s Yumi (孫雨) back in 2013 went viral, he immediately clarified the matter publicly. That was the last straw for Jing Lei.
She’s done being his scapregoat
Jing Lei was underage when she first met Leehom. She was 16 and he was 26. He found her pretty and requested for her number. Their conversations were flirtatious and they’d always talk for at least an hour whenever he called. In the beginning of their courtship, he was extremely considerate and would always offer to carry her bag and bring her out for activities.
However, there was one instance when they went to watch a movie, Jing Lei discovered that his ex-girlfriend was sitting a few rows behind watching the same film. She eventually found out that they were still together. It was only years later where she would see this pattern repeat again and again.
“You sincerely told me about your secrets and how lonely you were, and I felt that you, being such an exemplary idol, became like this because someone had hurt you. So we acted like a couple and spent time together whenever we could, contacted each other if we weren’t in the same city, and had a lot of good times together. We’d even say ‘I love you’, but we weren’t officially together. You said that you wouldn’t date anyone else, but that you didn’t want to be in a relationship for the time being,” she wrote.
Turns out, Leehom had many “friends” like her in various cities.
From “friends with benefits” to prostitutes: Leehom and his hook-up partners.
“You were photographed bringing girls home for the night and soliciting prostitutes, in fact, there was unequivocal footage of all this,” she wrote. “The women were all able to pinpoint which floor and which unit you lived in, and would be able to turn left from the elevator to get to your place. You admitted all this to me and said that your problem was that you were unable to control yourself. I suggested that we break up, and you spent weeks leaving voice messages saying that you wouldn’t do it again, and that I’d be your ‘One and Only’.”
Before they settled down, Jing Lei caught Leehom cheating again after his Shanghai concert, where he remained uncontactable till the next day. He had apparently drank the night away with his sex partners. There were photo evidences of the women at the party pressing their breasts against his face as well as some tongue action.
Leehom broke his promise and remained in contact with them. Once, his fling even sent him some nudes as a birthday present and he “happily responded”. Their flirtation continued via text and the woman even called the superstar ‘Hom Hom’ (her nickname for him) in an Instagram post before deleting it.
If that wasn’t shocking enough, Jing Lei revealed that Leehom even had an affair with another mother. Yep, the woman had kids of her own. “The sexual history between the two of you made me feel uncomfortable because even after we got married, she would still flirt with you and try to seduce you and you would always respond enthusiastically,” wrote Jing Lei. “I said I could accept it if it happened in a social environment, but not when you invited her to our house.”
There were other instances where Leehom’s dance instructor and another friend confessed to Jing Lei about their affairs and were upset cause they thought the singer was serious with them. “I later found a record you kept describing the characteristics of the prostitutes you solicited and some resembled the female staff around us (…) After going through all of this, I still chose to forgive you and be with you. I no longer hoped to change you, and let you live the kind of life that you want,” Jing Lei continued.
It was Leehom who insisted on the divorce
She added, “I stepped away from your life and waited for you at home with our kids, and waited for you to come home to us when you wanted. I also stopped arguing with you, but you still decided to leave because of your own selfishness. Your reason [for wanting a divorce] is that you’re worried that you would meet a girl that you like and you didn’t want her to be called a home wrecker. I refused to divorce, and you got worse and tried all means and ways to bully me with your words, shame me, even spinning lies to ruin me in front of our loved ones.”
An absent father
Although Leehom has been generous when it comes to the children’s’ expenses, the singer has apparently always wanted to live a “single life”. Jing Lei had hoped that by turning a blind eye and forgiving her husband, they would be able to maintain a harmonious family dynamic for the children.
“What I got in exchange was your absence. You weren’t there on our kids’ birthdays or on important holidays. Every time you left, you wouldn’t come back for months. My heart broke when I saw the kids crying in my arms because their hearts were broken. I realised that what I was doing was a bad example to our daughters… I thought I was giving our children happiness, but I was making them suffer through gains and losses… and disappointments time and time again.”
“You will always make time for things that matter. As they say, those absent will always have an excuse. Love has to be expressed with actions. You said you loved me, and now you say you love our children. I heard what you said, but I didn’t see you express your love. Love should be expressed by what you do, and not just by what you say.”
Was Leehom aware of her exposé?
Leehom had pleaded her not to ruin his career in showbiz but enough is enough. “I want to say that I’ve never wanted to do so, which is why I held it in until now,” she wrote. “Having to do this hurts my heart too, but if your showbiz career gets affected, it’s because of the many choices that you made; not me.”
“I hope that the both of us can start anew and be at peace. That you will be able to change the unhealthy habits of your mind and body and focus on your music. All your partners won’t be able to give you true happiness. They’re only leading you to a bottomless abyss… I hope that you can be truthful to yourself, not pay attention to how the world views you, and be with the right person.”
Brands are starting to boycott Leehom
We’ve seen what happened to Kris Wu. Things are definitely not looking good for Leehom. Car brand Infiniti has since issued a statement, stating that the company has terminated their partnership with him.
You can read Jing Lei’s full statement below:
Some will believe her, some will not. The road ahead won’t be easy but we wish the best for Jing Lei.
