Parenting is never easy. There are a thousand guidebooks on how to bring your child up, not to mention the many different and sometimes conflicting advice people give for free.
Even our stars and idols are not exempt from this. In fact, they are often scrutinised more, as Hong Kong actress Valerie Lam aka Coffee Lam (林芊妤) discovered. She was recently judged for taking a bath with her three-year-old son.
If you’ve been following her Instagram, Valerie has been on a staycation for a few days now. The actress was taking a nice holiday with her Malaysian husband Chak Chee Weng (翟志榮) and her toddler T.Y. Chak (翟德彥). Of course, one of the things to do on a staycation, is to have a nice bath while enjoying the view.
Yesterday (20th September), Valerie posted a photo of her and her son on Instagram. The duo were taking a bath together in the hotel’s jacuzzi with an overview of the city. They had their backs to the camera and were looking out the window. “Nice view,” Valerie captioned.
The picturesque memory was tainted by the comments of righteous netizens. Several felt that Valerie should not bathe with her son as he was old enough to be aware of his surroundings. “It’s not good to take a bath with your son,” one comment read. “He is already (aware of his surrounding) so (this would be) a bad influence.” Another asked: “Are you still going to be naked with him when he is 18? Education is important.” Others accused her of wanting attention.
However, many felt there was nothing wrong with it. They found the photo sweet and praised their beauty. Others pointed out that the only people who see something wrong with the photo are those who think indecently. As one comment said: “People with dirty minds and dirty hearts see dirty things… I honestly don’t think (there’s anything) wrong with your personal decision on how to bond with your son!”
Valerie herself responded to the matter, saying she didn’t see anything wrong with the situation. “However, every family has different concepts,” she stated diplomatically. “I will teach him using (what I think are) appropriate methods.”
The actress went on to say that the bodies of men and women are not necessarily equated with sex. “I just think this photo is lovely,” Valerie said. “Thank you for understanding.” Her politely worded response won the hearts and support of many fans.
Valerie Lam is certainly confident in her ability to bring her child up properly. Although T.Y. is still young, we hope he grows into a fine young man under his parents’ tutelage.