Jenn Chia and Jon Liddell have been together for 6 years – going on 7 years. So naturally, people would be curious about their plans to tie the knot and eventually start a family.
Being on the receiving end, however, can be annoying and most young adults who are in their 20s – 30s tend to laugh it off and brush it aside. During the SoI’mJenn Instagram Live last week, almost 2000 followers got to see both Jenn and Jon discuss their views on marriage and more.
When they first got together, Jenn had initially stereotyped Jon as the typical Ang Moh. “Y’all want some tea? Because he’s a white boy, when I first dated Jon, I might’ve been a bit racist. I thought cause he has a cute face, knew how to talk to girls and be sweet to me, I thought he was just going to boom boom pow and then bye bye,” Jenn explained, after seeing many Asian girls among her peers falling for the white playboy.
But in order to prove himself to Jenn that his love for her was real, the couple decided to withhold sex for the first few months. In fact, Jon even brought his beau to visit his parents in the UK after less than 3 months of dating. “No boom boom pow, but he still wanted me to meet his family. That’s when I knew, he really loved me.”
Fast forward a few years, the lovebirds have managed to build a company together and have only grown from strength to strength. “Honestly *knock on wood* if I (ever) break up with Jon, I will do an Instagram video to tell everybody that Jon is single. Seriously, he’s the best guy, the most patient, the most loving, the most caring, and the way he cares for the cats (for the past 4 years) – where to find? If we break up, I will promote (him) and tell (my followers) that (he’ll) be a good baby daddy. If I wanted, Jon would be an amazing father, but I’m judging based on how good he is with the cats,” quipped Jenn. “Well, maybe 3 cats equals 1 child,” Jon suggested.
When someone brought up the topic of marriage, Jenn said:
“That’s not my life goal. I don’t feel that I need to get married or get into that lifestyle. I don’t need to call him my hubby; already he is my hubby conceptually. I also recognise that I’m a very contradicting person at the same time. (The only part I’m interested when it comes to the wedding ceremony) is the exchange of vows. I like that moment where I sit down there and I tell him what I promise him for the rest of my life. I think that has a lot of meaning and promise is a very big deal. So I care a lot about that.
John on the other hand, he came from a traditional point of view. He (initially) had the idea that by 35, we should be married in a church. But when he met me, I told him that I don’t want that, and I think he kind of understood that.”
Watch the video here:
Despite societal pressures, Jenn now views marriage as a choice, rather than a necessity to fit in. “I really love the way we are right now; the kind of happiness and stability (at this moment) is enough for me.”