It can be exciting to begin a new relationship with someone you genuinely like, or maybe even love. You feel not just butterflies in your stomach, but an entire zoo when you see them and boy, how they make you flush. However, if you’ve just started your adventure with each other, it might be too soon to get physical, make plans for marriage and children, or discuss common financial goals.
Being in love has a drawback: your emotions for your boo could cloud your judgement. This could force you to rush into things instead of proceeding slowly and logically in the relationship. It can be difficult to tell if you’re moving too fast in a relationship – but we’ve listed a few signs that certainly point to it.
You Think Your Partner Is Perfect
It’s very acceptable to lose yourself during the honeymoon period of a new relationship, when you can’t bring yourself to leave your bed, can’t stop kissing, forgetting that you have friends and other obligations. If you allow these very pleasant sentiments to convince you that your partner is perfect, your relationship may be progressing too quickly. This is a hint that you might need to take things more slowly in order to get to know each other fully, warts and all. Then, you can decide if the relationship still seems right.
You Don’t Really Know Them
We’re all a mystery and no one is all good. Despite the fact that you don’t know much about your potential partner, you are enchanted by them and believe you would be content spending the rest of your life with them. For instance, you don’t know about their job, their friends, their family or even their lifestyle. It seems okay at first but trust us, it’ll only create doubts and problems later on.
Over-the-top Romantic Gestures
Two words: love bombing. When you experience love bombing, you can feel as if you’re swept up in a flurry of extravagant displays of adoration. They make you feel special and secure, creating a bubble that makes you feel like you – and your relationship – are unique. We hate to break it to you, but unfortunately, this doesn’t last.
Because flattery can be used to great effect, manipulative people frequently misuse it. Because you’re so enamoured with your new partner, things can go along really rapidly if they start love bombing and constantly putting it on thick. While the sensation of those explosions may be wonderful, keep in mind that they could be covering up harmful behaviour.
Haven’t Recovered From Recent Breakup
You may be rushing into a relationship if you’ve just endured a breakup, but then found someone else to whom you became overly connected. It’s good you found someone, but don’t you think you need a break or to slow down? You get lonely after a failed relationship, and your heart searches for comfort. You are at your most vulnerable state and will easily form bonds with those who can relate to you. It’s where you think they are the one for you – only to get into more trouble that could hurt you. So, we suggest you slow down, breathe a little and be considerate before jumping on the next relationship.
Eager To Meet Their Friends & Family
Meeting each other’s parents is a stressful experience in any relationship, but if it takes place only a few weeks into your union, something is undoubtedly wrong. It’s time to let up on the reins and veer off course for a moment. It’s crucial that you and your boo get along with each other’s friends, family, and loved ones. Although there isn’t a specific schedule for when you should meet everyone, you ought to be at ease with the concept by the time you do. You may be moving too quickly if meeting their relatives feels uncomfortable to you. This is particularly true if your partner is pressuring you to become more integrated into their life than you feel ready to be.
Ignorant Of Your Own Needs
A good relationship is when you keep your needs and the relationship with others balanced. However, if the relationship has taken over your entire life, it’s time to take a step back. If your friends are grumbling that they don’t see you anymore, if you’ve forgotten all about your interests, or if you haven’t had a moment to yourself since meeting your partner, then you’ve become ignorant about other things that matter too. Discuss ways to better balance the amount of time you spend together and alone with your partner. Although they are difficult to have, they will result in long-term constructive effects.
No Boundaries
Meddling in each other’s present or future affairs is unhealthy, especially during the early stages of a relationship. Feeling respected, honoured, and at ease are elements of a long-lasting attraction, but you can’t establish those feelings if you’re just getting involved in each other’s life. If your relationship lacks boundaries, you can start seeing your partner as a bit much to your friends and family, or you might start considering yourself as one thing rather than two people.
Ignore Red Flags Or Differences
Differences in relationships are unavoidable. Learning to accept your differences, as well as discussing and resolving them, takes time. Rushing into anything may cause you to completely ignore issues you disagree with. Or it’s possible that you’re just blind to them. If you’re rushing into things, chances are, you might be ignorant of any red flags too.
Sexual Life Too Strong
Physical closeness is beneficial, but having too much of anything can make your thinking fuzzy. You are not in a balanced relationship if sex is the sole factor keeping you and your partner connected. You might only be in the fun and exciting period for a short while before you start to realize other characteristics in your spouse that you might not like. The likelihood is that you are rushing in if you believe you are in love because of the sexual chemistry. Find out if you and your partner are compatible in other areas as well before taking the relationship too seriously.
You’ve Lost Your Own Identity
Another indication that you’re rushing things is that you’ve given up portions of your identity or your life out of concern for what other people may think. Often, those in a relationship tend to lose themselves to make the relationship appear perfect and flawless. But what they don’t realize is it will only make the relationship worse. It’s similar to putting on an act. Losing your identity makes you comply with your partner’s wishes rather than standing up for your own interests, or you prioritize their preferences, interests, and ideas over your own, losing yourself in the process. No matter how good of a relationship you’re in, always remember you carry your own identity.
