For most, marriage is supposed to be a happy affair with the person you love. Unfortunately, for this Malaysian lady, her marriage to her husband became a prison which ate away years of her life.
Recently, a Malaysian lady shared her woes on the internet, detailing her marriage which ruined her life for 20 plus years. From being verbally abused to acknowledging she was not an individual in her husband’s eyes, her suffering has left the internet shocked and horrified.
Her troubles first began when she was 17, sometime during the 1980s. As her father had passed away and her family was struggling financially, her mother approached her with a request. She was asked to drop out of school and get married early to help her family. Unfortunately, she not only married loveless at 18, her living situation got worse.
“After 20 years of marriage, my pronouns were “hey” when I am close and “hoi” when I am far away. It sounds very intimate,” she added sarcastically. “For example: “Hey, what are you doing?” This happens whenever I am cooking or out in the yard and following his orders slowly.” Regretfully, food was also an issue in her household.
She was required to prepare whatever her husband wanted, three meals a day, on top of completing her regular housework. This pushed her to take five pills of Panadol at a time to maintain her health. The one time she tried to stand up for herself and told her husband to eat bread for breakfast, he threw a packet of noodles at the wall and retorted: “This is bread.”
Her pregnancy had also been a nightmare. During her first pregnancy, she often suffered from unbearable headaches, leaving her crying from the pain. Unfortunately, all her husband did was curse at her for “being stupid” and for “making so much noise that he couldn’t sleep peacefully“. He also told her to take Panadol, which later got her in trouble with her mother-in-law.
The lady also shared that she never asked for food while pregnant. It confused her mother, but she held her tongue on the issue, as she knew she would never get what she wanted. “I don’t have the right to eat anything. As long as I am not hungry, I can eat anything. This is what my husband taught me,” she said bitterly.
She did get to eat what she craved eventually, nasi lemak wrapped in banana leaves, thanks to her immediate family. Apparently, her mother had gotten her siblings to purchase it for her. Unfortunately, this was only when she was nine months pregnant and on a visit home to give birth.
“My appetite, my wants, my dreams, were all just dreams!” she lamented, adding that the few examples she brought up had only been about food. “This is what I faced during the entire 20 years of marriage.” Thankfully, the marriage is supposedly over as she referred to him as her ex-husband.
It certainly isn’t a life worth living, nor a marriage worth saving. We sincerely hope she’s doing much better now and is eating whatever she wants, when she wants it.
Sources: China Press, Tan Tan News
