Often times our childhood will inadvertently dictate how we want to start our own family when we get married. While most go in with the intention to have children, that’s not always the case – at least not immediately anyways.
During a recent episode of SBS’s new talk/variety program “Circle House”, host Han Ga In (한가인) opened up about her personal experience in regards to dating and relationships.
While discussing her personal life, the 40-year-old South Korean actress shared that she suffered many hurtful rumours after tying the knot with former drama co-star Yeon Jung Hoon (연정훈) in 2005. People didn’t just accuse her of being infertile, they also suggested that her marriage was probably on the rocks.
“I met my husband when I was 22, and got married at 24. I felt like I was still so young, I wasn’t even done growing up yet, so I did not have the confidence or the desire to have a child and raise him/her. So my husband and I agreed that we would wait to have kids, and that’s why we did not have any kids for 11 years,” Han Ga In said.
She added, “Soon after I got married, I would go out in public and people would always ask me, ‘When are you having kids?’. When we didn’t have any kids, rumours started going around that our marriage was falling apart, or that I was ‘infertile’. I never even tried having children in the first place, but all of a sudden, the key search word that popped up next to my name was ‘infertile’. Just because I got married, that doesn’t mean that the next step of my life is pregnancy. Those rumours gave me great stress.”
Han Ga In and Yeon Jung Hoon proved the naysayers wrong when they welcomed their first child – a daughter – in April 2016 when the actress was 35 years old. They had their second kid (a boy) 3 years later, in May 2019.
During the episode, the star of “Mistress” also talked about not having a relationship with her own father. Growing up in a broken home, there wasn’t a father figure she could look up to, not until Yeon Jung Hoon came along and changed her perception.
“I did not have a good childhood growing up. I do not hate my father. I had no expectations of him, from him, whatsoever in my childhood, so I cannot even harbour hate toward him. I have no feelings about him at all,” she recalled.
Han Ga In went on, “Because I grew up in that kind of household, I was so happy when I visited my husband’s home. It was a warm family, the kind of families you see on TV. The stew was boiling, and everyone in the family ate at the dining table together and asked one another how their day was. One of the reasons I got married at a young age was because I wanted to be a part of that family… When I see my husband taking care of our children, it heals me. Sometimes, it brings me to tears. He is showing me the image of a father that I dreamt of for our kids.”