Both sexual harassment and rape victims rarely come forward with details of their experiences due to various factors. These factors, in summary, according to Psychology Today, include shame, denial, fear of consequences, low self-esteem and the feeling of hopelessness and helplessness. In Malaysia, the factors that lead to rape and sexual harassment victims not reporting the incident to the relevant authorities revolve around shame and the fear of consequences. This is mainly due to society’s tendency to victim-blame and the lack of legal support for the victims. As of now, the only acknowledged form of Sexual Harassment is listed under the Employment Act which relates to sexual harassment at the workplace.
Nevertheless, these factors and the lack of laws protecting women from sexual predators have indeed enabled various individuals to walk scot-free after committing such heinous acts. Therefore, many women feel disempowered to report such crimes for fear of being accused of defaming the person involved. Recently, social media was abuzz with popular Malaysian Tik-Toker, Arieff Effenddy Yong, 26, being accused of statutory rape and being a sexual predator.
Who would've thought @arieffyong is a sexual predator. You treated those girls like a queen konon siap bagi flowers all that, give them hope, ruined them and then broke everything????? Babi sial
— Ayam Goreng 🇲🇾🌺 (@deandelaina) July 19, 2021
The allegations started off with Instagram user, @nyonya_, who posted screenshots of conversations with women who have been manipulated by Arieff Yong for sex. The pattern for manipulation is pretty much the same. The ex-flight attendant, would sweet-talk the girl for a couple of days, send them flowers, convince them that he wants to get into a serious relationship, hooks up with them and then he breaks up with them a few days later, for various reasons.
He even went to the extent of posting the girls on his Instagram Stories, tells the victim that he’s told his family about them, pours his heart out, supposedly saying he’s found the one, proceeds to give them rings and cook for them!
Below is a compilation of @nyonya_’s Instagram stories:
Amidst these rising allegations, Arieff Yong has apparently, lodged a police report against two social media users, for “tarnishing his good name”. Apart from that, he has changed the privacy settings of all his social media accounts.
The caption to his post, reads,
“Dear All, I have lodged a police report on this particular person (you know who you are) as an appropriate action to protect myself and my reputation from defamatory statement /false accusation made by him/her. My good name has been harmed and the person’s statement has affected my reputation in the eyes of the public. I believe truth is the absolute defence. Hence, if the person fails to apologise and retract his/her false statement, I will proceed with legal action.”
These allegations seem absolutely terrifying! Love bombing is not a joke and so are rape allegations. It’s high time, awareness of manipulative behaviours of rapists and sexual predators to be made public in order to enable individuals to identify the red flags in a particular friendship, relationship or acquaintance.
Let’s just hope justice will be served!